A radio show was discussing male dominance in the society the other day and it made me worry! I don’t want to start a riot or increase the violence that exists today, but I just want to put forth my opinion on the recent, gruesome, disrespect to women ( I hate the word rape ); that have had men pondering for their dignity.
In defense of men who have allowed themselves to be shamed by the inferior few who had no control of their feelings;
Men, true men have a gentleman’s behavior, and they are rare to find in this century, but I must not say they are non-existent, they are the cream of the crop, the best of the best, well mannered, well dressed, suitably characterized as gentleman by their gentleness!
And then there are a few of us, and by us I include myself. Sure, we were brought up as sturdy men compared to our counterparts, we were taught to respect women for their character, not categorize them for their choices on life. And to respect them as fellow human beings. This sense of equality therefore has an impact all through our lives, relationships find the most impact.
But I must confess, neither of my previous relationships thrived on these qualities, I shouted at most times and forgot what was most important in their terms, dates of anniversaries and birthdays. Man did I suck in these. But never had I lost the respect and never will I. I don’t need to show them that, it’s their duty, or so I believe, to realize that.
But that’s past and like most ex’s won’t believe, I have changed. Let’s just put that aside though.
Now, chores have become common among men here where I live. We believed that it was the duty of the fairer sex to carry out these. But when we or rather shall I say, I started to understand them more, I realized how much of a wall we had created around them, and the burden that lay on them. Not to mention the expectations that were set forth by others.
It’s just that simple, we help around the house, as much as women do work, men do the same. We earn pretty much the same and have professional jobs that are similar, and beyond that I don’t expect any kind of discrimination against women, maybe I am blind.
Would love to tell you though that I know someone who rides a bike and she keeps telling me how people think it to be a surprise! All it did to me when she said it was it gave me profound happiness. Why should it surprise you?
Don’t expect men to be rough as well, we feel the same love to dogs and cats as much as women do, we just don’t show it in a way that they do. And let’s face it more men are willing to go to a spa nowadays, so men have become sensitive, just not “gay”ish!
If that’s not change, then I don’t know what it!